Monday, August 23, 2010

Given Half A Chance...


A thought that I threw open in a comment on Secretlynaughty's blog... hoping some of my readers (male and female) will add their thoughts/experiences.

Swallowing. With a name like mine (real) you can imagine the teasing and namecalling I got at HS and college. But "behind closed doors" I found that it was another matter entirely and a lot of guys... I'd even say MOST guys... would deliberately NOT cum in my mouth; they'd pull away at the last minute or if they were too slow they'd spend the next fifteen minutes saying sorry. One even pulled a face and said "yuk" when he saw me drink it down.

And this includes some of the same guys who would smirk when they heard my name and asked if I'd swallow them etc etc... (and yes, I still hear the same jokes today, when I'm nearly 30).

So the question.

Would more girls swallow if guys DIDN'T make such a production about not wanting to cum in their mouths - which in turn sets up a thought process in the girl's mind that there must be something icky about it?

After all we know what we're letting ourselves in for when we first put him in there. A friend suggested that guys are just being polite or considerate but LOL if that's true, it's one of the few times they are!

Of course it's only the first few times, once you have swallowed, or even let himcum in your mouth, then it's all he wants to do. LOL and all I want to do too, a lot of the time. It's getting him to that place that's difficult.

So please everyone, hit the comment button and share your thoughts and experiences!

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

i don't know why a guy wouldn't want to cum in a woman's mouth. if he didn't, what is he getting a blow job for? i am not sure why your high school conquests acted like they didn't want to cum in your mouth. maybe they were just pretending about it?

SunLover said...

I love to do it but would never fire without an idea that its ok - some women hate the taste of semen, I discovered early on, and I really do aim to be considerate. It is an incredible feeling to have your cock up against the back of the throat with the lips and tongue workin it and then let go.

And I thought your name was a nom de plume! that must have been a bit of trial...

ProfessorC said...

Remembering my adolescence, having a girl suck my dick was the ultimate fantasy. It's something that I jacked off to, many a time. So when you finally get a warm, willing mouth on your cock, you don't want to do anything to discourage her from doing it again. Not knowing if cumming in her mouth would turn her on or not, it's safer not to, if you ever want to put your dick in her mouth again. Later, you can discuss whether she likes the taste, etc and if she gives you the green light, heaven awaits!

Anonymous said...

Cumming in a woman's mouth is my absolute favorite thing to do. It is the ultimate turn-on. But, that's only the case if she wants me to. If she doesn't want it, or has to be begged, or shudders in horror as it happens, then it's not arousing whatsoever.

I like it when a girl asks for it. If she says "cum in my mouth," those are the four hottest words in the English language. I like it when she tells me she wants to "taste it," or if I tell her I'm about to cum, and she responds with something like "I want to suck it out of you."

But, and this is important, she has to sound like herself. If she just sounds like she's quoting Jenna Haze, we can tell, and the lack of authenticity is disturbing. Don't just sound like you're reading from a porn script in a misguided effort to give us what we want. The key turn on of cumming in a woman's mouth is when it's what SHE wants.

And if she really wants it, and tells us so, and we can see it in her eyes, and she's moaning with enjoyment at the thought of taking our cum, then there is absolutely nothing hotter.

Jenny Swallows said...

[i am not sure why your high school conquests acted like they didn't want to cum in your mouth. maybe they were just pretending about it? ]

Anonymous - I think you missed the point. It had nothing to do with them NOT wanting to, it came down to being polite/concerned - as Professor C said, "when you finally get a warm, willing mouth on your cock, you don't want to do anything to discourage her from doing it again."

The question is - why would it discourage her? Even on a girl's first time, she knows it's going to happen. So why do guys (most guys, some don't care) automatically assume she's not going to like it?

misoodanim said...

This is another thing we can blame on porn. The 80’s taught us we were supposed to cum on a woman’s stomach, the 90’s it was her breasts and this last decade it’s her face but only if we did it with a dozen of our mates. No wonder we don’t know what we want or what’s expected of us.
I just thought of that quote: “It’s easier to ask for forgiveness than permission.” Or something like that. LOL
I think it comes down to communication or the lack of it early on in a relationship. We all want to cum in her mouth but we also understand that not all women like it. The problem is how do you bring up the question of can I or can’t I? This is not the thing you can bring up over dinner when talking about the weather, her job or your comic book collection. To be honest the only time that seems appropriate is when you’re in her mouth and then…WHOOPS!
As a fervent male feminist I leave it up to her. I announce la petite mort is imminent but leave enough time for her to make up her own mind. YOU GO GIRL!
On the other hand I wonder if a woman has ever said to a man going down on her “Is it OK if I squirt when I cum?”

Jenny Swallows said...

On the other hand I wonder if a woman has ever said to a man going down on her “Is it OK if I squirt when I cum?”

Brilliant... let's find out! (new post coming!)

darkerthan said...

I usually find a girl is using both her hand(s) and mouth when I get near orgasm....

... so if you make it pretty clear that you're going to cum, she's able to keep going or just finish manually. I can't remember the last girl that didn't swallow, though.

All this assumes, of course, that you're not holding her head, or haven't tied her hands behind her back first...

secretlynaughty said...

one question I do get asked is .......where would you like me to cum?

I usually reply that anywhere is good but not my face. Perhaps I should be saying ...'in my mouth' more often.

It had never occurred to me before reading misoodanin's comment that different decades meant a preference for different parts of a womans body to cum on. Or maybe its different in different parts of the world.

thanks for the link :)

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